Thursday, March 7, 2013

A Heavy Weight


I recently listened to the audio book Psycho-Cybernetics read by Dan Kennedy.  He said this: 

“A grudge is a heavy weight to bear.”

Let me tell you a true story:

I know a man who has carried a grudge against some of his siblings for seventeen years.  What a waste. 

Seventeen years of nursing resentment, anger, and hatred, all over a disagreement about the way some minor parts of the family’s estate should have been handled. 

No money was changing hands.  No one was getting less than their share of the estate.  Yet he was challenged and thus the grudge.  What a burden.  

The weight of that grudge has cost years of separation from his siblings.  No one knows what it might be doing to him physically and mentally because he has shut them off.  What a tragedy.

Grudges are a heavy weight to bear. 

I’m not sure why I’m writing this today.  Mostly, I hope it will cause some reader somewhere to recognize themselves and get over whatever grudge might still exist.  We have to reach the point of forgiveness, resolve, release and let it all sink to the bottom of the ocean.

Seventeen years is a long time to carry that heavy of a load.  One month is a long time to carry that kind of a load. 

You need a rest my friend.  Lay it down.  Walk away from it. 


Anne Lamott sums up our thoughts beautifully.

"Not forgiving is like drinking 
rat poison and then waiting
for the rat to die."


P Michael Biggs
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